My ability and good luck to have gained access to the good masters in China and abroad (sambo, kungfu, wing tsun (aka wing chun), TKD, JKD, Judo, wrestling, BJJ, MMA) and a personal, unrelenting dedication to being one of the best makes me one of the candidates to share some mastery of the martial arts with the rest of the world and especially the good incel community over here!
I can say, as a martial arts person that it's my sincere desire, for all of the incels and femcels worldwide, to gain the skills they need and to improve the quality of their lives by following the principles of the simple martial system. It's possible for any one, whatever their starting point is, to achieve a much more balanced mind and a stronger body by adopting the core principles of hard working (training) and remembering the martial arts' moves. I follow one of the most effective, practical and simple systems in the 21st century. So, the incels, femcels, just follow me!
And straight to the point [in Chinese: 开门见山
("Open the door, see the mountain.
The principles (of self-defense)
Many martial arts and fitness schools as we see advertising self-defense classes. More and more people are becoming aware of taking control of their own personal safety and investing their time (and, well, money) in self-defense classes in case the worst may ever happen and they get into a heavy fight. But are their money (and time) being wasted? What should a useful self-defense class entail? Are martial arts and self-defense the same thing?
Well, most people think that self-defense is like individuals throwing high-spinning kicks (like those in TKD) or yelling loudly while breaking boards in crisp white karate gi (karate uniforms). While this can be 1 element of self-defense training, the term "self-defense" actually comprises many different factors, only one
of which is physical skills necessary to prevent or stop an attack
Remember that self-defense is also a state of mind
-- it is about being able to spot things that are out of the ordinary, picking up on subtle cues that a potential situation may occur and getting yourself out of the harm's way. Self-defense is about getting back to your home and normal life safely it is not
about taking out 2-3-4 or 5 guys all at the same time as a complete superman. Be realistic and reasonable
Look, before (most of the) fights turn physical, there is usually an element of verbal and non-verbal contact like: eye contact, yelling, pushing and shoving, and so on, before, at some point maybe, a punch (or kick) is thrown. Being able to diffuse situations before they even begin (and spotting potential signs of escalation) is really what self-defense training should be about! Isn't it?
Imagine the scenario:
You're in class and a Chad is coming drunk and obnoxious. He starts getting in your face, telling you what he's going to f*ck your one-it-is Betty while sticking his finger in your chest. You have been training in JKD and gymmaxxing for nine months now – maybe it’s time to test your skills? Would you:
A) create distance between yourself and the Chad, put your hands up in a non-confrontational way and tell him that he's the coolest in the school and he can f*ck anybody he wants?
B) Get back in the Chad's face and try to test your newfound JKD skills out?
If you picked "A" – well done! This is really the real self-defense side. Self-defense is about not getting into fights!
It is about de-escalating situations and preventing conflict in all circumstances. (The physical fighting is always the last resort as, chances are, you are going to be hurt, even if you win the fight.) Even grandmasters of martial arts do not easily go to fight everytime when some freak is trying to pick a fight wth them. Then why you should?
There are also the legal sides to think about, which many people who teach self-defense do not think of. Yes, many self-defense classes go straight to the last resort and aim to really injure an attacker by striking or breaking a bone, when really, depending on the circumstances, this would only land you in a jail or another punishment. Legislation surrounding self-defense differs from country to country, but usually, an element of necessity
in having to defend yourself is needed, as well as an aspect of reasonable
-- do you need to physically defend yourself at that time? Or can you leave the situation? Going back to our class scenario – if there was room for you to maneuver your way out of classroom and move, would it be necessary for you to physically defend yourself? Or, alternatively, are you backed into a corner with your back against a wall, with no possible way to escape? Which situation would show necessity?
2. Reasonable force
-- is your reaction to the situation reasonable
? Do you show reasonable force in defending yourself? The Chad at the classroom pushes you and threatens you. You punch him in the face, kick his belly, knock him out and stomp on him as he is passed out on the floor. Alternatively, the Chad pushes you up against a wall, preventing your escape. You push him too to make a gap and run through it, escaping the classroom. Which scenario shows reasonable force?
Easy as pie.