Needy or not
Being "needy" is a normal, natural status when you're lacking something. For example, when there is no money, no capital, you're poor, i. e. you're in need, you're needy. The same is when you're a loveless person, when you're an incel. Being needy is the logical, natural incels' status.
So, the question here is, concretely, is it right to show your neediness or not? There are those theories that state: "If you show you're a needy person, she is not going to like you." but there are the opposite ones who suppose that "If you're dealing with a romantic girl and you express your neediness in the right ways like admiration, support, etc., she may value you and like you/love you more than if you are keeping a colder or cocky attitude toward her."
I am a person who prefers the honesty so I never avoided to show my neediness. Maybe it was the reason I lost many chances with girls I liked but, well, at least I was real, I wasn't someone who's showing them just a mask; a fake personality.
And example of an e-mail (from 2007) which shows my "neediness", but in fact, the real me (by the way China that I am talking about isn't the present (2023's) China. Now the situation here isn't that good as it was.
): e-mail to a pretty, nice and interesting American girl