you gotta get a therapy to get medications for your awful mental state.
Only if you're psychotic. Don't
ruin your health with medicines (many of them full of side effects) just because you have some hypodepression (低抑郁, 抑郁症, 轻性抑郁症). There are many other therapeutic ways, including sports therapy, work therapy (工作疗法) and so on, which may prevent you ruining your young body with medicines.
It contains multiple sessions and there are feedbacks per session for a therapist to analyze to recover your mental state.
The psychotherapies are a way better way (when the psychotherapist isn't some medicine oriented who is just planning how to sell you medicines) but you have to be lucky to find a really good one. Otherwise your situation may get worse or, in a better case, to lose any hope about the psychotherapy.
Don't you find it ridiculous to do something just because of a man/woman's word?
Depends on who is that man/woman. If it's just another Chad or just another Becky, okay, you may ignore them but what if this is your idol, your one-it-is, your best teacher (tutor) who you do respect a lot? Or what if, in the reality this is the case, this is the majority of the females you like? Look, you may live for yourself if you're not living in a society or you're able to be self-sufficient, let's say -- a volcel. Cool. But if you can't and you don't want to? Then, well, you have to adapt yourself more or less to the desires, expectations of the majority of those who you like. They prefer richer, fitter (body wise), educated (for example)... then you should, at least, give it a try! Especially if the thing (for example, the money, the muscles, the knowledge) is good for you!
Do you understand? If they like something that is good for you too (for example to be richer and to be stronger), then you 100% have the sense to do your best. But if they're some crazy or degraded people who want you to be something bad (like a gangster), you don't need blindly to obey (to follow) their tastes!
As for how to live yourself, well IMO if you are doing what you like to do, you can say you are living for yourself. Some shortcels seem to me they are so obsessed over their heights that they've forgotten they should live for themselves.
Easy to say if you have granted income (like rich parents). What if you're one of those who even since the childhood have to go to work in some factory or on the field? How you're doing what you like to do if you're working at least 8 hours some heavy and/or stressful job and when you're back home you have to deal with washing clothes, some cooking, taking a shower... and then you feel so tired that you even can't do your hobby (like running or even just playing a PC game)?Most of the people are so dependable of their jobs and duties that they just can't do what they like to do. Usually the thing you like to do, isn't profitable. For example, you like reading books and nobody pays you for this, moreover you have to pay for the books.
I hope you know what's to be poor and to be a working poor? Like you work 22 days or more in a months and your salary is enough just to pay your utilities bills, some food, some clothes and... maybe to go to a bar once or to visit a cinema...
I can name of a handful of things that are worse than being short. So you are 'luckier' than those who are suffering from worse things. Can't being luckier make you feel good? Good point but it is good to be continued with "And once you're luckier, start to compensate your shortness with other good traits like build a better body, a better health, try a new major, new income, upgrade, maxx everything you can."
Learn that, if not only are you short but also you are negative, women will not only reject you as their boyfriends but also they will reject you as 'friends', and even no men will accept you as a friend because your inferior complexity can only make them feel pale. So you can see being negative will not only be detrimental on your mental state but also make you isolated.
That's right. 2 bad traits > 1 bad trait.
Learn that there are many things that do not require height. Learning Math, playing League of Legend, being on reddit, etc. What a good conclusion with such lame examples.
Okay, learning math (sort of edu-maxx) may be accepted as a good one, but instead giving them good idea how to compensate their shortness (build muscles, search for higher earnings, look for a place with shorter females -- gymmaxx
), you're teaching them how to enjoy being gamers or wasting time on a website which doesn't pay them anything? What's the result after many years of watching a screen sitting down (playing game or reading something on a website)? I'll tell you what: you'll be still short + you'll have problems with your health (eyes, waist, abnormal weight maybe... all these "benefits" of the sedentary lifestyle (久坐的生活方式)
, for your own sake, if you're a shortcel, realize that you're already in enough bad situation to afford the luxury of being a gamer, wasting time on websites that do not pay you anything or everything else related to the sedentary lifestyle!
You need to focus on your better health and better body first and then compensate more with status, money, etc.! Do it until it's not too late.