Those incels who think that the personality is overrated are right
I want to tell you that the personality is
important (especially for the long-term relationships) and I don't reject its importance. But there are those incels who're right that many people (including some of the incels themselves) tend to overrate the personality (the psychology) of the people. In the oneitis
thread it was mentioned already. Here I'll explain it very clearly.
Let's start with the normies first. Many of them are really bluepillers and think that to be attractive means just to improve your personality and to take some minimal care like taking showers, wearing good clothes and having a job. When
someone who is with the right personality, showered, well-dressed and working in a good company, but
too ugly approaches them they will be like "Oh, no, sorry! You are fine but you're not my type."
Now, let's continue with the incels. Some of them do think that if they don't accept every woman that likes them, they're volcels and they don't want to be volcels so they're ready to accept everybody. They even imagine that if there is that woman who is with the normal personality and not going to cheat, everything is 100% sure. Then when some really ugly and/or fat cames, the incels will feel shocked and start with "But I．．． ａｌｓｏ ｃａｎ ｈａｖｅ ｓｏｍｅ ｍｉｎｉｍａｌ ｓｔａｎｄａｒｄｓ！ Sｈｅ ｉｓ ａ ｌａｎｄｗｈａｌｅ！ I ｃａｎ＇ｔ ｐｅｒｃｅｉｖｅ ｈｅｒ ａｓ ａ ｗｏｍａｎ． She is even not 1/10! She is 0.1/10! She is 0.01/10! No way!"
So, where is the problem?The problem is simple. Most of the people just imagine somebody who is at least a little attractive. And then they start to believe that this little attractive person if has got the right personality and has those minimal “musts" like be clean, don't be smelly, don't be homeless, etc., then he/she will be accepted by most of the people. Well, they just don't realize that there are people who're to ugly and/or disgusting and/or scary (creepy) and keep saying that personality is all that matters but when they meet somebody like that, they realize that the personality isn't everything.