Why I didn't title it "A forum for the ugly people"
What is "ugly"?
What is "ugly"? And why I don't think that "unwanted = ugly", "unloved = ugly", "unattractive = ugly"?
As a philosopher (master's degree) and a person who graduated with a master thesis "About the different aspects of love" (philosophical anthropology), and a person who learned aesthetics, I'd like to ensure you all: UGLY IS SUBJECTIVE!!!
Most of you aren't philosophers, so I'll explain it simply just with two fast examples:
1/ Probably you know the proverb: "The beauty is in the eye of the beholder." A fast explanation? Mary may think that Peter is handsome, but May may think that he is ugly! Thomas may like Maria, but Jeff may feel that she is a disgusting woman! Lee thinks snakes are pretty, but Kim thinks they're terrible!... Got it? It's very subjective.
2/ Many years ago in some societies people think fat women are pretty. Nowadays in the same societies people (mostly) doesn't like obese women. You see? It depends of the concrete person, of the time (the concrete temporal aesthetic values) and so on.
Why "ugly" doesn't equals unwanted, unloved, unattractive And now I'll explain why "ugly" doesn't equals these (unwanted, unloved, unattractive).
Even we accept "ugly" as something "objective", let's see why it's not the same as "unwanted", not the same as "unloved" and not the same as "unattractive".
1. Unwanted and ugly. Some unwanted may be unwanted, because he/she/it is considered ugly. But many unwanted people, animals or things are unwanted, not because they're ugly (or not only because they're ugly). There are many reasons something or someone to be unwanted. Many reasons, really! Some examples? Sure, here we go: not enough money, not enough responsibility, not enough feelings/emotions, not enough needs...
2. Unloved and ugly. Some unloved are unloved, because they're considered ugly. But many unloved people, animals or things are unloved, not because they're ugly (or not only because this reasons). There are many other reasons, really! Some examples: "She is not ugly, but she is not honest!", "He is not ugly, but he is not responsible!", "She is not ugly, but she is so selfish!", "He is not ugly, but he is so poor!", "She is not ugly, but she smells so bad!", "He is not ugly, but he is so crazy and psycho!", "She is not ugly, but she is a freak!", etc.
3. Unattractive and ugly. Well, probably, the "unattractive" and "ugly" are closer than the others (unloved and unwanted), BUT they're not 100% equal. Why? OK, let's say that most (or even all) of the ugly are unattractive. But unattractive may be also many others (even when they're very pretty), for example: violent, vulgar, dirty, smelly, poor, stingy, etc.
Hey, you may be even HANDSOME (PRETTY) AND GOOD, but someone to say you're unattractive, because... you're just "too good". True stories!