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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Re: If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read this

« on: September 16, 2022, 03:41:07 AM »

 One is involving kids (and that's why it's a psychiatric diagnosis (perversion) and crimininalized), the other one is involving teenagers. Many of the teenagers look like adults, you can see these 14 years old teenagers: https://cn.bing.com/images/search?q=14%20years%20old%20girl&qs=n&form=BESBTB&sp=-1&pq=14%20years%20old%20girl&sc=10-17&cvid=92775AF5FBDB467CA5ABD1527821A8A9&ghsh=0&ghacc=0&first=1&tsc=ImageHoverTitle&ensearch=1 and in some states (countries) the teenagers can get married (legally). So the ephebophilia isn't a diagnosis (perversion) and depends on the local laws (age of consent) is or isn't criminalized.
 Just making clear that there is a big difference between "child"/"kid" and "teenager". If you didn't know it,

The canonical ages for marriage in the Middle Ages was 12 for girls and 14 for boys (the accepted ages of puberty).

(Source: https://jannagnoelle.com/2016/04/25/love-and-marriage-in-the-middle-ages/#:~:text=The%20canonical%20ages%20for%20marriage%20in%20the%20Middle,from%20age%207%20onwards%29%20much%20earlier%20than%20decreed.)

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Re: If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read this

« on: September 16, 2022, 02:28:56 AM »

 The age was just an example. And by the way if an adult likes a 14 years old it's not pedophiia, it's ephebophilia. In some countries 14 years old is the age of consent.

 Links:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ephebophilia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Why some of the incels are right that the personality is overrated

« on: September 15, 2022, 05:42:00 PM »

Those incels who think that the personality is overrated are right

  I want to tell you that the personality is important (especially for the long-term relationships) and I don't reject its importance. But there are those incels who're right that many people (including some of the incels themselves) tend to overrate the personality (the psychology) of the people. In the oneitis thread it was mentioned already. Here I'll explain it very clearly.
 Let's start with the normies first. Many of them are really bluepillers and think that to be attractive means just to improve your personality and to take some minimal care like taking showers, wearing good clothes and having a job. When someone who is with the right personality, showered, well-dressed and working in a good company, but too ugly approaches them they will be like "Oh, no, sorry! You are fine but you're not my type."
 Now, let's continue with the incels. Some of them do think that if they don't accept every woman that likes them, they're volcels and they don't want to be volcels so they're ready to accept everybody. They even imagine that if there is that woman who is with the normal personality and not going to cheat, everything is 100% sure. Then when some really ugly and/or fat cames, the incels will feel shocked and start with "But I．．．　ａｌｓｏ　ｃａｎ　ｈａｖｅ　ｓｏｍｅ　ｍｉｎｉｍａｌ　ｓｔａｎｄａｒｄｓ！　Sｈｅ　ｉｓ　ａ　ｌａｎｄｗｈａｌｅ！　I　ｃａｎ＇ｔ　ｐｅｒｃｅｉｖｅ　ｈｅｒ　ａｓ　ａ　ｗｏｍａｎ． She is even not 1/10! She is 0.1/10! She is 0.01/10! No way!"

 

So, where is the problem?

The problem is simple. Most of the people just imagine somebody who is at least a little attractive. And then they start to believe that this little attractive person if has got the right personality and has those minimal “musts" like be clean, don't be smelly, don't be homeless, etc., then he/she will be accepted by most of the people. Well, they just don't realize that there are people who're to ugly and/or disgusting and/or scary (creepy) and keep saying that personality is all that matters but when they meet somebody like that, they realize that the personality isn't everything.

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Re: If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read this

« on: September 15, 2022, 04:20:04 PM »

 The psychology (like too shy to say a word or too rude when it comes to express his feelings) is sometimes the one and only problem. But it's not always like that. Let's say 20% of the guys are shy and other 30% are too rude and disgusting. It makes 50% (a half) but what about the rest? The rest are all those who are just not attractive enough (too fat or too smelly; too tall or too short; too ugly, too old...)
 You are a girl and you can easily understand it with this example: let's assume that there is that person who is not having the problem "I　ｔｈｉｎｋ　I　ｃａｎ＇ｔ！　I　ａｍ　ｓｏ　ｓｈｙ ！" and he approaches you. He's also not rude, he is even romantic and pays your drinks, buys you flowers, draws pictures for you, writes poems takes you to the most pretty places and buys you all he can and all you like. But, what if he's a bald man who is 35 years elder than you and even shorter than you? 99.99% chance that you will friendzone him with "I think we can be just friends." And if this person really wants to attract you only his psychology and personality isn't going to help him. He should get an amazing body, he should be very popular and respectful, he should be very rich and full of knowledge... and still, maybe you'll never give him a chance. But if he is so developed already maybe some other girls or women will accept him... so what I mean is that the self-improvement makes sense.

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Re: Wｈｙ　ｔｈｅｒｅ　ａｒｅ　ｓｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｇｕｅｓｔｓ　（ｒｅａｄｅｒｓ）　ｂｕｔ　ｎｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｕｓｅｒｓ？

« on: September 15, 2022, 04:01:48 PM »

 No. Because, you see, the bots are AI and some of the AIs are better (more clever) than some of the low IQ people.

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Wｈｙ　ｔｈｅｒｅ　ａｒｅ　ｓｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｇｕｅｓｔｓ　（ｒｅａｄｅｒｓ）　ｂｕｔ　ｎｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｕｓｅｒｓ？

« on: September 15, 2022, 06:36:40 AM »

Wｈｙ　ｔｈｅｒｅ　ａｒｅ　ｓｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｇｕｅｓｔｓ　（ｒｅａｄｅｒｓ）　ｂｕｔ　ｎｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｕｓｅｒｓ？

 If you wonder Wｈｙ　ｔｈｅｒｅ　ａｒｅ　ｓｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｇｕｅｓｔｓ　（ｒｅａｄｅｒｓ）　ｂｕｔ　ｎｏ　ｍａｎｙ　ｕｓｅｒｓ？ I will make this guess (answer):
 
 1. It's for normal incels and normal people who''re interested in inceldom (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) . So if someone is abnormal (a terrorist, a rapist, a racist, a pedophile, a hater and so on) he/she is only reading and not going to register. This is a right act because we're going to ban him or her in case he or she registers here.
 
 2. The registration in this forum isn't very simple; only people with an average IQ (or around it) may register. The low IQ people just can't do it. It's because of the anti-spam measures.

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Re: If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read this

« on: September 15, 2022, 06:20:29 AM »

 That's it... Iｔ　ｒｅａｌｌｙ　ｄｅｐｅｎｄｓ　ｏｎ　ｗｈｏ　ａｒｅ　ｙｏｕ　ａｎｄ　ｗｈｏ　ｉｓ　ｓｈｅ．　
 Oｆ　ｃｏｕｒｓｅ，　ｉｔ＇ｓ　ｎｏｔ　ｇｏｏｄ　ｔｏ　ｆｏｃｕｓ　ｏｎｌｙ　ｏｎ　ｏｎｅ　ｐｅｒｓｏｎ　（ｅｓｐｅｃｉａｌｌｙ　ｉｆ　ｔｈｉｓ　ｏｎｅ　ｄｏｅｓｎ＇ｔ　ｃａｒｅ　ａｂｏｕｔ　ｙｏｕ），　ｂｕｔ　ｓｔｉｌｌ，　ｉｔ　ｉｓ　ｖｅｒｙ　ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｔ　ｗｈｅｎ　ｉｔ　ｃｏｍｅｓ　ｔｏ　ｓｕｂｊｅｃｔｓ　ｗｈｏ　ａｒｅ　ｍｏrｅ　ｄｅｖｅｌｏｐｅｄ　ａｎｄ　ｗｏｒｔｈｙ　ａｎｄ　ｓｕｂｊｅｃｔｓ　ｗｈｏ　ａｒｅ　ｂａｄ　ａｎｄ／ｏｒ　ｌｏｗ　ｌｅｖｅｌｅｄ．

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EARN MONEY / Re: A truth about those agents who offer you teaching jobs in China

« on: September 15, 2022, 06:15:38 AM »

 By the way, I shared it in some WeChat groups. I want this to be clear, escpecially now when so many Chinese people and foreigners in China do suffer because of this Zero COVID" -- policy of the impossible against which I protest.
 So, if there are some people who disagree with it and want to debate it (to dispute it) may come here to do so. I'm not going to participate in WeChat's, QQ's, Skype's and other debates (disputes). I　ａｍ　ａｎｓｅｒｉｎｇ　ｏｎｌｙ　ｈｅｒｅ．

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EARN MONEY / Re: A truth about those agents who offer you teaching jobs in China

« on: September 15, 2022, 05:57:20 AM »

 Of course. Most (I suppose, almost all) of the people are selfish. The problem is that this selfishness is combined with evilness. If you're just selfish and you are isolated (self-isolated) or just inactive; it's okay. It's just your choice and you don't harm others. But when it's a selfish one + evil tricks (or something) then the problem is clear: he/she is hurting the rest of us.

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Other topics / Re: Hello!

« on: September 15, 2022, 12:30:57 AM »

The kid wanted to hi us in a new topic but it was locked because it's duplicating this one.
 Just letting you know in case some of you want to say "Hi" back to this interesting kid.

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Other topics / Re: What are you doing right now?

« on: September 15, 2022, 12:10:17 AM »

 Yes, it says:

This topic is locked, you are not allowed to post or modify messages...

Good.

 And I am watching the news.

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Other topics / Re: Hi!

« on: September 14, 2022, 03:45:08 PM »

 Looks so familiar. Like a deja vu.  

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Re: If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read this

« on: September 14, 2022, 02:52:43 AM »

There is opinion like that having oneitis is psychologically unhealthy. Time spent obsessing over a oneitis can interfere with almost everything, and severely hamper personal progress. The effect of unrequited love can lead to mental health issues. A degraded mental state, combined with obsession, can also cause a person to not pay attention to legitimate interest from others, making oneitis a vicious circle.

 I suppose that it depends on who is in love and who is the oneitis. For some people it may be a motivation and lifefuel to develop themselves. Of course, if at the end, it happens to be an unrequited love there may be some mental pains and/or issues.
 I　ｄｏ　ａｇｒｅｅ　ｗｉｔｈ　ｔｈａｔ　ｏｎｅｉｔｉｓ　ｍａｙ　ｃａｕｓｅ　ａ　ｐｅｒｓｏｎ　ｔｏ　ｌｏｓｅ　ｓｏｍｅ　ｏｔｈｅｒ　ｏｐｐｏｒｔｕｎｉｔｉｅｓ　（ｔｈｅｒｅ　ｍａｙ　ｂｅ　ｂｅｔｔｅｒ　ｏｎｅｓ　ｔｈａｎ　ｈｉｓ　ｏｎｅｉｔｉｓ）．

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / Re: If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read this

« on: September 13, 2022, 09:00:32 PM »

 And now the clarifications.

 1. I know that many incels do hate when people are talking that they are entitled so I don't want to accuse them like this... but if you're an incel (or anybody else) and you do think that only "I like her" (or "I love her") is enough she to like him (love him) back it's really something that belongs to one of these (or to some of these, or all of these):

• entitlement mentality (entitlement mindset)
• naivity
• delusions

 Maybe you feel/think that it's very romantic to say "I　ｌｏｖｅ　ｙｏｕ！" or to express your feelings in some pretty way. But it's not going to work if she is not into you (i. e. doesn't like you). Never stop to imagine one disgusting woman who likes you and who is being romantic, gentle and so on... and how this is not going to make her even 10% more attractive to you if she doesn't change her body and face somehow and doesn't get some more positive qualities.

 2. Some guys think like this "Hey, I am a good runner. I run faster than most of the normies! Why she doesn't like me?!" or "I am such a good gamer/poet/mathematician/etc., why she's not proud to have a boyfriend like me?!"
 Well guys, imagine some ugly girl which is an amazing runner or super talanted painter/singer/historian/etc. Is it enough for you to choose her to be your girlfriend if she's not changing (improving) her looks (face and body) and not getting more positive qualities (like not cheating, being clean, able to help you with something, etc.)?
 You need to improve your body and to become richer and/or popular, etc. to be able to attract the females. For example, if you're a good runner it's a good beginning but you also may start to improve your clothes, your knowledge, your incomes... just never forget to empower yourself with the right maxxing (gymmaxx, edumaxx, moneymaxx, popularitymaxx, socialmaxx and so on.)
 3. If you are able to find out which males are her ideal males (for example John Cena or Brad Pitt）start to resemble them with little steps (first the bodies, then the styles, after that their personalities) and at the same time develop yourself in additional ways. Let's say, that her ideal male (males) doesn't play chess, but you like chess, so you can do your best to be a better chess player. Or if you like something else (which is positive and developing/empowering for you) like fencing or Japanese language, you can learn it well.

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A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) / If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read this

« on: September 12, 2022, 03:20:41 AM »

If you want to have some chance with your one-it-is (a.k.a. oneitis) read these points

 I mentioned the situation with my first oneitis and these days I was thinking about how many of the incels and the other noncel but without psychological and related knowledge boys are making huge mistakes when hoping that theirs oneitises (one-it-ises) will like them some day.
 1. The boys are too naive to think that if they like a girl very much then she must like them too. It's a super naive entitlement! Guys, think about it: are you able to like even those extremely ugly girls (in your eyes) only because they like you? Only "I like you (I love you)!" isn't enough (in the majority of the cases). Break the entitlement mindset now if you want to have some real chances!
 2. To have some skill and/or to develop something new is great. But don't be naive to expect that it's enough for her to like you. Remember that it may be one of all those "necessary but not sufficient" things or even it may be a useless one (to her).
 3. Try your best to find out what kind of males she likes (looks but also personality); don't be shallow like "She likes only Chads." (even so, at least learn which kind of Chads she do prefer). Once you find her ideal for man, do your best to get closer to this ideal (but don't be like a "I copy 1:1 everything!", develop your own, unique positive sides too).
 I'll try to make all these points clearer next time (with some concrete examples).