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« on: March 01, 2020, 06:47:13 PM »
Let me represent an opinion about some of the incels which are also haters and not constructive people. Maybe this one mentioned above is one of them? But he is not important.
Read this: a book, even a good book like this one, won't help some of them. The thing we need to understand is that some of them (some people even tend to think -- "the majority of them") don't want to change.
Even the ones that seem like just sad, lonely guys who need a break don't want to put in any effort toward changing themselves or their lives, then how we can help? They just want to be victims, uniquely devoid of actions, and able to blame all their shortcomings on everyone and everything else, i. e. self-pity is what they do prefer in fact. So, until and unless they want out, they can't be helped.
I will say again, it's not every incel, it's some incels. I'm just saying exactly what incels have said to me and to some other women and men. That they don't want help, and that "normies" know nothing. It's why many of us stopped trying to help. (Another reason to stop trying is when there is some hater like that one above!)
It's pretty sad to be discouraging you from helping, so you can try to help those who really can say "I'm doing a lot to try and change my life." They deserve help. The rest, well, until (and unless) they are willing to leave the toxic incel communities (some of them are non-toxic, but many of them are) and start to take some responsibility for themselves and their lives, nothing will help them. It's not easy and it's impossible without work. Most of the time -- hard work. So, as a wish: start working hard and keep working hard!