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Normal Incels (Incels Without Hate) => A forum for incels who are normal people (no terrorists, no rapists, no racists, no pedophiles, no haters and so on) => Topic started by: Good incel on October 26, 2022, 04:56:10 PM
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I don't know if it's my problem (because the females don't like me and I lack of proper experience with them) or it's some psychological problem in them but if I don't keep an active conversation (which means not to talk only about me which most will consider selfish and paying more attention to them, which means to ask them questions) there will be those who will say that I am asking too many and too personal questions. Even a simple question (which we learned in English classes at school, which points that it's a normal question for conversations) like "What does your mother (father) do?" may be considered as a "too personal".
If you let them to talk, usually they don't know what to talk and they're waiting you to be active. When you're active then it's "You're talking too much."
The recent hour example. I was chatting with a girl and she said (without asking her) that she's rich. It was logical, natural and everything to follow the topic by asking her something about it. It would be rude to ask "How rich?" or something like this so I decided to use that English class question about the job of the parents and BOOOOOOOOOM! here it came: About my parents, isn't that a bit personal? Maybe sometime when I get to know you better.
As I said, "I don't know... it's a problem: when I don't ask questions the girls would say "He is too boring. He doesn't speak anything. Why only I have to keep the conversation?" but when I'm asking more questions every question may be considered as "Too personal. None of your business. Why do you ask this?" It's like being between a rock and a hard place."
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Especially those who're full of ideas that most of the males are not safe and (thanks to the radical incels who're ruining the image of all the incels around the world) the incels are crazy and dangerous, surely will be afraid to have a normal chat with you.
But we can't conclude that all the females are like this. There is a group who is very talkative and they'll ask you a lot of personal questions (including your salary, your property, your love life and so on).
Also, as many incels noticed it, if you're a very handsome male (a Chad-tier one or a PrettyBoy-tier one) you don't need to worry about it because if you're silent and shy, they will be like "He's so cute!" and if you're talkative and asking the so-called "personal" questions they'll be like "He's so genuine and assertive!" Once you're not an attractive man, than it's getting difficult to maintain a proper conversation but it's doable in most of the cases and you should just try to adapt to the concrete personality of the female. Well, if you feel she is not so easy to deal with, just don't bother and try somebody else. And use it as a motivation to improve your knowledge, your body fitness, your hygiene and your incomes (if it's possible). Just don't give up at all!
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If it's me I am not wasting my time at all; the last time when I got this, you saw it all, I just started to see if there is a real chance to meet up or not. If not, well, let her search for someone who's not asking "bit personal"... By the way, there are those guys who only talk rude and sh*t and still find girlfriends. So, it's mostly about your looks and your power (money, popularity, connections). The communication skills are subjective thing: for somebody "You're hot!" may be a compliment but for another one may be a rude statement. Just don't think too much about it.
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You just can say "I'm sorry about it." and try to chat with her something else (music, stars, food... there are so many topics here in this world. :P) but if she again tell you that she's not liking this or that maybe it's just a hint to stop bothering her and to move on. Don't be like a baby that doesn't know when to stop.
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Yes, I am really sorry and getting tired so I will just call it a day...
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Good idea. What else?
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Just learned the bitter lesson. Good for all the incels and some noncels as well.